Are you trying to deal with Postpartum stress ? These self help tips for coping baby blues will certainly help in a way or the other. As the little human arrives, the hearts are filled with joy, everyone seems to be very happy to welcome this new member in the family and so is the new mom. But wait, very soon the joy starts getting overpowered by the baby blues. The stress starts developing and the new responsibilities starts taking a toll on the new mum’s life. It is this time when you are introduced with this totally unexpected phenomenon, “Post Partum Depression’.
So why does this happen? What changes the most blissful fairy tale into a depressive and stressful saga? The biggest reason that is known to me is the “EXPECTATION”. This game of expectation begins months before the baby arrives, the moment it becomes known to people around you that you are expecting, more than blessing and good wishes you are showered with advises.
Unfortunately for many women the post partum depression doesn’t seem to end and their life becomes gloomy, the end result of which is low self esteem, loss of interest, unhealthy eating habits and so on.
You can Deal with the problem with these Self Help Tips For Post Partum Depression
1. Accept That a Little Mess in Your House is Just Normal
You were a perfect homemaker and your house used to be spick and span but now what has happened ? Just a Shift of focus,your life is revolving around this new member, and you need to realize that this little wonder needs you the most. Try to adjust with your not to neat and tidy house.
2. Do Not Try To Be A Superwoman
Nowadays women are constantly under pressure of being a great multi-tasker. Refuse to take this pressure and feel happy about what you are and whatever you are doing for your family. Do only what is the basic requirement dont try to make everything perfect. Once you start realizing that your utmost priority is your baby and rest everything can be put on hold for a while, you will easily get over the depressive side of the Post Partum phase.
3. Welcome The Helping Hands
Be it your mother or your mother in law let them share the load. Accept happily whatever help they are willing to offer. Involve your husband in taking charge of some of the household chores. I have seen certain families where men are treated as a boss. Women on the other hand are considered as mere housekeepers. It is the responsibility of both husband and wife to run the household efficiently.
4. Become Deaf to The Annoying Aunts
They are everywhere and there is no way that you can avoid stumbling upon one. Things you are likely to hear from them ‘Oh you still look pregnant’, ‘BTW who does the cooking, must be difficult for you ‘, ‘In our times we had no diapers, your generation is lucky,, and so on. Can you stop them? NO, so it is better to become deaf to such comments and save your soul.
5. Ensure ‘Me Time’ For yourself
This is very important, me time is the time that you spend with your ownself. Try indulging in things that interest you and make you feel happy and content. It can be anything like a hobby, chatting on phone, watching tv or just getting a Salon treatment. All you need to ensure is that you don’t get disturbed while you are enjoying your own time. Disturbances will lead to more frustration and dismay.
6. Love Your Child But Don’t Stop Loving Yourself
The biggest problem of women is their tendency to giveaway everything for those whom they love. We forget that even our life is precious and many a times we are made to believe that thinking for yourself is being selfish. We need to understand that friends, family, love and children are all part of our life and not our life. Children are precious to us, they give a meaning to our life, I wont be exaggerating if I say being a parent makes your life worthwhile. But do not make them the reason of your personal fiasco. A lot of mothers forget their own life and start living for their children , all they remember is to cook, to feed, to clean, to teach and so on, gradually this lifestyle starts taking a toll on their physical and emotional wellbeing. As the children grow they become independent and that is when you feel a pinching void in your life.
7. Do Not Forget This is Just a Phase of Your Life
As I said earlier, this is just a phase, time waits for none. No matter how difficult you are finding to adjust with this phase of your life, the fact is ” it will pass”.
8. Get Help
If you can afford a helping hand, go for it. This will give you the opportunity to spend some quality time with your little one. By delegating the household chores to your domestic help, you can create memories with you children to cherish for a lifetime.
9. Get Out In The Sun
Sunshine can lift your mood and make you feel energized. Ensure to get 15-20 minute sunlight everyday.
10. Eat And Rest
Your physical well being is equally important, no matter how busy you are, eat your food on time and don’t even think of skipping meals. Take enough rest as and when possible. To ensure proper functioning of the body proper nutrition and ample amount of rest are pivotal. Ignoring/skipping these will lead to more stress.
While motherhood is a pure bliss in every way, we cannot deny that it is equally challenging as well. First time mommies always find themselves confused, unsure and worried about things related to their babies. One of the biggest challenge you face as a mother is at the time of weaning your baby.
As the baby grows his nutritional need increases and he requires to be introduced to the solid food which he will be eating throughout his life and this will be the major source of fulfilling his nutritional requirements. Many parents are scared and much worried about introducing their babies to solids mostly because they are not sure how the baby will respond to his new diet.
In present times it is not at all difficult to learn about weaning the babies. Every information you need is available online on how to stop breastfeeding and shift to solid diet. But ironically all the googling you do will only leave you more confused and baffled as there will be a gazzilion diet charts and some trazillion baby food recipes available online and if you are a first time parent you will certainly find yourself in the middle of nowhere.
Things To Do Before Starting Weaning the Baby to Solid Food
- Consult a pediatrician, you need to be sure that your baby is ready to start eating solid food now. The Pediatrician will also provide you certain guidelines on how to start feeding solid food to your baby.
- Stock your pantry
- Get the right utensils
- Invest on one comfortable feeding chair
- Buy bibs and napkins
What To Give To The Baby While Weaning a Baby Off The Bottle
Baby Food Recipes To Start With (6 months onward)
This is very easy to feed as it does not contain the grains. Boil washed Rice in triple amount of water and a dash of salt. When the rice is completely cooked strain it to obtain the thick sticky rice water add a pinch of salt and Ghee(optional).
Dal ka pani as it is called in India is another dish that you can add to your baby’s diet chart. It is easy to digest and will certainly help the baby in his initial stages where he is learning to eat.
Most of the babies enjoy eating bananas, it is very likely that you will not find any difficulty feeding banana to your baby. Choose a ripe banana which is easy to mash and feed.
This is another main course option that provides nutrition and is filling. Potatoes are everyone’s favorite and babies are no exception. Take ghee in a pan add boiled grated potatoes to it.Pour in some milk, basically to attain the desired consistency. Season with some salt and pepper. Cook this mixture until you get thick, creamy, lump free and smooth mashed potatoes.
Moong Dal Khichdi
Take Moong Dal and Rice is 3:1 ratio. Add triple amount of water, pinch of turmeric powder and salt. Cook in a pressure cooker until 3 whistles. Temper it with some ghee, curry leaves and garlic. I bought this pressure cooker when my older one was born and this is still very much useful as I prepare meals for my little one.
Blend together milk and pulp of Sapodila fruit to make a thick shake. This makes a perfect mid meal snack for babies.
Things To Avoid While Starting Solid Food
Chunks in Baby Food
The food must not contain lumps nor chunks. Checks twice before feeding anything to your baby. Choking is a very common problem that leads parents to the emergency rooms.
Spices May be Unsuitable
In the beginning avoid putting spices in your babies food. Babies may not be able to digest or sometimes they may not like the taste of the spices. Start with Turmeric powder and black pepper. These spices are not very pungent and at the same time they are very therapeutic in nature.
No one likes it not even babies. Don’t give completely bland food to the baby. They may eat it but they will acquire that taste and will find it difficult to adapt to normal food in future. Add very little salt / sugar, just enough to break the blandness.
Avoid Too Much Pureeing
I have seen mothers who are obsessed with pureeing, they run the baby’s food in a blender and serve it to babies. while this may be helpful in just initial 15-20 days, you need to shift from it soon.
Encourage Baby Led Weaning
What is Baby Led Weaning ?
This is a concept that became popular in the UK and in my opinion it it very helpful. Baby led feeding is basically allowing the child to eat on her own.
Benefits of Baby Led Feeding
The biggest benefit is that as you wean you baby he starts recognizing the food he is eating. Baby led weaning also develops eye and hand co-ordination, as the baby sees whats in the plate and tries to pick it up and puts it in his mouth. In baby led weaning approach the baby gets know to the aroma, taste, texture, and color of a several foods that are being served to him.
When to Start Baby Led Weaning
Wait for your baby to be ready to get started. The baby should be able sit on a high chair without being held. When you sit the baby on a high chair he should be able to hold his neck and sit stable without support. This milestone is achieved around 8th month.
Baby-Led Weaning Foods To start With
Start with finger food like potato wedges, steamed florets of Cauliflower/broccoli, Banana, baked Apple sticks etc.
You can start adding new food gradually, as the baby gets used to eating on his own. Pasta, steamed/boiled Broccoli, Omelette cut in to pieces, flaked de-boned steamed fish, shredded chicken roast and so on.
The Bottom Line
The actual goal of weaning your baby from breastfeeding / formula feed to solid food is to introduce the child with the kind of the food he/she will be eating throughout his/her life. The key to successfully achieving this goal is smooth transitions.The baby begins with liquid diet, then is shifted to semi-solids and then finally to solid food that we all normally eat. But shifting from one type of diet to other should be done carefully by keeping in consideration the actual ability of the child to handle the consistency of the food given to him/her.
You might not be aware of it all the time, but those little bundles of joy tend to pick up all
your habits, good or bad. As a parent, your kid looks up to you for almost all their lives,
however, it is in their early childhood that you need to implement healthy habits so that the
children would do the same. You can't only tell your kids what is good to do and what not,
you need to show them and be a positive role model. Here are some helpful tips on how to
Love all foods
Even as infants, kids know what they like and what they don’t prefer. However, kids
somehow don’t want to eat those greens, usually because they look yucky. Broccoli,
cabbage, cauliflower, eggplant, are some of the kid’s least favorite food. Your job is to
show how healthy and nutritional vegetables and other foods are. Prepare broccoli more
often and always offer it to your kids, even if they don't eat it, they might get intrigued. Or
after time, when you start ignoring their neglect or refusal of eating that food, they will just grab it when you are not watching. Above all, completely ditch junk food, and avoid
preparing greasy, sugared and unhealthy foods.
Wash the hands
Learning how to fight nasty germs and bacteria is more than vital. Not only for the health,
but also for the protection against illnesses and good behavior. Proper hygiene is the best
way to keep the entire family protected. Start by teaching your kid the importance of
washing hands before and after every meal, as soon as they enter the home after playing
or simply being outside. You can tell them "When we wash our hands, we get rid of dirt
that make us feel sick". Make the activity of washing fun by having some routine and
technique. Create sounds or sing The Alphabet as you wash hands because 20 seconds
is an ideal time to thoroughly wash, rinse and dry hands.
Look after the teeth
As soon as the first tooth sees the light of the day, you need to implement the habit of
brushing teeth. In developed countries like Australia, children are thought to brush teeth on
their own from an early age. The best way for them to learn how to brush their teeth is to
do it together. Stand next to each other, wet the brush, squeeze the toothpaste, and brush
the teeth for about 3 minutes. Also, they should learn how to floss, but they should learn
that once their teeth start fitting closer. Above all, specify the importance of going to a
regular dentist checkup. For that reason, it is important to find a skilled and highly trained
Wollongong dentist where your child will feel most comfortable and where you would get
Be in constant motion
Being physically active in all stages of life is extremely essential for your child's growth,
health, energy, and stamina. Childhood obesity is a big problem, and that is mainly
because nowadays kids spend too much time in front of TVs and computers playing video
games. In order to avoid child obesity, improve their health and boost confidence and self-
esteem, your child should be in constant motion. Explain to them the health benefits of
playing any kinds of sport. Swimming and doing athletics is great for kids aged between 4
to 8 years, but they can play any other sport they wish as long as they do quality
stretching. Spend time outside with your kids, walk the dog together, cycle in the park, and
try to be in constant motion.
Avoid Being Messy
Usually, after school, kids simply throw their backpack on one corner of the room, and
clothes and socks on the other corner. You need to teach them to always put the stuff on
its place. Especially, they should learn not to leave trash and garbage all around the
house. After food, and if they happen to snack in between meals, you should stress the
importance of throwing wrappers, papers, tissues, and other leftovers directly to the trash
bin. Teach them that there are a lot of germs and bacteria on filthy bags and that nobody
should pick after them.
Drink plenty of Water
Unless juices are freshly squeezed, you should not offer them to your kids. They are full of
sugar, and they don’t contain any healthy nutrient. Because of that, and for many other
reasons, they should drink plenty of water. Only tell them and if necessary repeat on and
on: “Water is healthy, soft drinks are bad for you”. Again, if they don’t see you buying and
drinking juices and sodas, they won’t ask for them, neither will they drink them at some
friend's birthday party.
Enforcing and teaching your kids about healthy habits is a long and demanding process
that takes time and patience. You only need to be firm and persistence and the result will